The vacillator. The vacillator often grows up with an unpredictable parent.

孩童时期，摇摆者了解到他们的需求不是他们父母的首要任务。

As children, vacillators learned that their needs aren't their parents top priority.

作为孩子，敏感者认为他们不是他们父母心中的第一位。

Without consistent affection from their parents, vacillators develop a deep fear of abandonment.

当父母终于给他们时间和注意力时，摇摆者却会因为太过於生气或厌倦而不想接受。

The vacillator often grows up with an unpredictable parent.

敏感者往往是在性情捉摸不定的父母身边长大的。

Vacillators have a tendency to idealize new relationships, but once they feel led down or disappointed, they grow dejected and doubtful.

摇摆者倾向於理想化新的关系，但是一旦他们感到被辜负或失望，他们就会变得沮丧和深感怀疑。

But when the parent finally feels like giving their time and attention to them, vacillators are usually too angry and tired to receive it.

当父母终于给他们时间和注意力时，摇摆者却会因为太过於生气或厌倦而不想接受。

In order for vacillators to cultivate healthy stable relationships, they need to learn how to pace themselves and get to know someone before committing to soon and getting hurt by their own expectations.

若想要敏感者培养健康稳定的人际关系，他们就需要学会调整自己，在做出承诺并因对自己的期望而受伤之前先了解对方。

Without consistent affection from their parents, vacillators develop a deep fear of abandonment, but when the parent finally feels like giving their time and attention to them, vacillators are usually too angry and tired to receive it.

由于缺乏双方父母的关爱，他们很害怕被人抛弃但是当他们的父母终于给予他们关爱和时间时，他们会因此而感到愤怒，表示很厌烦去接受。