We upbraid ourselves for being losers, time-wasters or perverts.

当我们成为失败者、浪费时间的人，或者堕落的人时，我们会训斥自己。

She upbraided herself for the sentiment, but could not overcome or lessen it.

！ 她为这种情绪责备自己， 但无法克服或减轻它。

But if the parent is more punitive, the picture grows darker: approval is always uncertain, there is a constant fear of being called arrogant or of being upbraided for something one hadn't thought about.

但如果其父母更为苛刻，那么孩子的内心会更消沉，无法确定自己是否被认可，不是在担心会被责怪太过傲慢，就是在担心会因为自己没有想到的事情而受责备。