And those attitudes, Ragavan argues, help let dating violence persist.

拉加万认为，这些态度导致约会暴力持续存在。

" Young people have a lot of power to make a difference, " Ragavan says.

“年轻人有很大的力量来改变现状，”拉加万说。

If you don't want to discuss your own dates, talk about examples from TV or movies, Ragavan suggests.

如果你不想讨论自己的约会对象，那就谈谈电视或电影中的例子，Ragavan建议。

Either way, Ragavan says, " offer a lot of support without judging or placing blame." And be willing to believe your friend, even if you liked the person they say has been abusive.

拉加万说，无论哪种方式，“都要提供大量支持，而不是评判或指责。”愿意相信你的朋友，即使你喜欢他们所说的虐待者。